I believe in marriage
I believe kids get values when raised in a family
I believe in Astrology
John Gray, author of the Venus/Mars books, says, "The average length of a marriage/relationship is about 5 years."
Reason: The average person experiences
constant stimulation with Facebook, drugs,
Miley Cyrus, reality TV, Mayor of Toronto, sex
life of Kim Kardashian and eating in gourmet
restaurants.
We expect constant titillation and after 5 years with the same person, boredom sets in. So we
dump the relationship and go on to titillation with someone new..
The present educational system encourages sexual conduct of kids by providing sex classes and arranging abortions. The government affirms that they (the gov't) are now the family of the children.
In reality, when parents are absent, this brainwashing works and puff, like the magic dragon, the
family vanishes.
Astrology, divided into 12 houses, lists the 7th house for marriage and the 5th house for love and romance. Ah Ha..... what does this mean? Anyone can figure this means marriage is a contract, a consolidation of properties. BUT.....The 5th house is for romance and (affairs).
So.... ah.... how do we get back to marriage and family values?
It's simple: Return to the 50's values of "stay married (protection of the assets) and have family
dinners, smoke cigarettes and have lusty affairs. It always worked in the movies.
Problem solved...... lol
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If you don't like my solution, do you have a better one?
Happy Thursday, Dear Bloggie Friends.
lol well there was less during that time, maybe you are on to something with your chime. Another main reason as people are idiots, they get pressured from society to get married or they are strange, so they shack up with the first person they meet and later find out things aren't so sweet
ReplyDeletePat
DeleteThis is all tongue in cheek as you know. To each his own but if we look at history, the countries made up of depravity soon destroyed themselves. I may sound like an old fuddy duddy but it appears that is direction we are going. Ah heck, and I said I was going to shut my mouth. LOL
I personally think that infidelity was just as high back then but people just never talked ab out it. It's easier to know about it these days in the age of social media. Just my two cents :)
ReplyDeleteKeith
DeleteOh it was. Affairs ran rampant during the 50's, 60's. And look at the ancients, Greece for example. Although I love their dances... the cretico and the chamico, mostly done by the men.
Affairs ran rampant....ha ha. I have three brothers, all with different fathers, none of which is my dad. naughty, naughty mummy.
DeleteIt is only simple if both people agree to the "contract." If two people agree to have a faithful marriage and one person breaks that contract, then it isn't so easy.
ReplyDeleteMarriages used to be more about assets and less about feelings. Now the feelings take up as much "market share" in the relationship as the assets. How do we go back???
Robin
DeleteI admit..... I am a relic.... completely out of main stream thinking. In my mind, having a baby is a grave responsibility and one parent families are the norm. Most people want socialism and that is the way it will be. This is juat a little tongue in cheek because I doubt if there is any "going back" right now.
Manzanita,
ReplyDeleteSome marriages don't work because people change and they don't meet each other's expectations. People still choose to stay in bad marriages because of their kids. There is no right or wrong answer. Each family is a complex world . Just because a marriage is not doing well, it does not mean that they don't have values.
People who get bored of their partners because of facebook or other social media are bored with their own lives and they will be bored with any relationship. That is an inner problem they have, and we should not blame facebook. (you, I hate facebook and I don't use any of that).
Julia
DeleteYou made some good, honest points. I try to understand young people's thinking and this is just a little tongue in cheek today. Every generation has their unique problems and believe me, my generation had plenty.
I think I still have a FB account but rarely, rarely use it.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I meant to write Mind you and the word "mind" is not there. Sorry. I had to type fast.
ReplyDeleteJulia
DeleteI leave out letters all the time as my keyboard is shot. Some keys I have to go back and press extra hard.... like the K and the L. Haha
And you may meet families whose couples are doing well, but their kids are not raised so well and they turn out to be bullies at school.
ReplyDeleteJulia
DeleteThere is really nothing new. We had plenty of bullies when I went to school but we didn't have TV to broadcast it. I remember being in kindergarten and having to sneak around different ways to go home after school because Bill Sandborn was a mean bullie and he'd push me down and was actually violent, giving me many skinned knees. As he got older, he bullied the boys and left the girls alone. It didn't do any good to tell adults because kids, for the most part, were taught to fight their own battles. I'm not saying that was "good", it's just the way it was back in 1935. But, it actually made me strong and made me a survivor. Years after we had graduated from high school, I went to a class reunion and there was Bill Sandborn, Mr self-made nice guy. I doubt if he even remembered he was a bully but it went fleeting through my mind. He had an intelligent wife and I gravitated to her immediately. She talked about their kids and was very pleasant. A few years back, I heard he had died and he must have been close to 80. That's life, I guess, we live and then we die.
I'm not trying to compare life of 78 years ago with today. Of course, they have to be different. but because we are all humans, they also have many similarities. It is all interesting.
It's who you marry, marry someone who make you laugh and you can gossip with you.
ReplyDeleteLooks fade and who has money when they are old even if you do all you want is to be comfortable not win at everything.
The beer fairy and I have been married for 42 years, not always happy and we did split up for 5 years at one time but most of the time its been fun and we are content.
Merle....................
Metle
DeleteI just, last week, said the same thing to my granddaughter. Find a guy who will make you laugh every day. Sex will get old, no matter who you're with. You are right about the fact that one's looks fade and men never seem to hold up as well as women do. All my old girl friends are widows.
I am so happy that you and the Beer Fairy decided to get back together. I can tell from your posts that it made your kids happy to have their parents together again. I don't care how old kids get, they never want their parents to split up. Even when one is old, it's comforting to go "back home" to your parents for the holidays. I'm sure my parents had their tough times.... heck yes, as it was the depression and my grandmother used to say, when poverty comes in, love flies out the window." It's still comforting to me to know they are side by side in the small town cemetary.
Way to go, girl.
I mean Merle.... typo....probably more will show up. Some of my keys are shot. I have the new computer still in the box. Haha. A lot of good that does me.
DeleteMy mother-in-law, who was married 60+ years, claimed the secret to a long marriage was MOMENTUM. It was easier to keep going, even while making adjustments, than to stop completely & possibly start over with someone new!!
ReplyDeleteThat depends...who was on top?
DeleteFishducky,
DeleteI totally agree with your mother. How wise. Life just has highs and lows and often when a couple hits the first low..... Oh my god, it's off to the divorce court. Did you ever watch that old first soap on TV, Mary Hartman. It was on a few years and I love the way it ended. It went through Mary's life with her husband, their ups and downs and a lot of her scenes were washing her kitchen floor. They finally got a divorce and on the last episode, she was in the same spot, washing her kitchen floor. That really was a big change!!!!
I see Al added a little humor for you. Haha
I like your solution - haven't the guts to have a lusty affair though - but never really needed one.
ReplyDeleteAnna :o]
Anna
DeleteThe people who have them usually never need it either.
Thanks for your imput
Lawyers may be unhappy with your assessment
ReplyDeleteJohn
DeleteProbably not. Not many people even marry these days. I'm just living in the past.
Keith does have a point with social media. I remember lots of hanky panky in my day but it rarely made the nightly news. Also a lot of women were stay at home wives and mothers so it wasn't so easy to dump the dude and move on. Our morals may have changed but so have our options.
ReplyDeletePatti
DeleteYes....lots. Probably more hanky panky than now because there wasn't STD to think about. It wasn't talked about because there was also a great deal of shame involved. Times have really, really changed but why not because that was 84 years ago for me.
The one thing that always surprised me was how everyone reacted to Kennedy's indiscretions. They didn't react actually. Everyone knew but just pretended it wasn't happening. He was so loved and kept us out of WW3 even though he knew he'd most likely pay for it with his life.
Good comment, Patti. It's comforting to talk to someone who understands those times. I try to explain them to my grandkids and I don't think they get it.
Might be some shootings with so many affairs
ReplyDeleteHoly Ghost
DeleteMight be, that is if anyone still has something to shoot with.
Well, whaddya know? Mrs. Penwasser and I are above average.
ReplyDeleteI should post that on Facebook.
Al
DeleteHahaha
You and Mrs. Penwasser are truly a shining example. When FB first originated, I went on it and got hooked but the FB love affair was brief. I think I'm still on it but never check it and just about every day they send me an email that I have things pending. Wonder if I'm missing something.
After 39 years, and counting, I say that marriage is a covenant/contract/promise/legally binding. Whatever it takes, it behooves us to MAKE IT WORK! People change, marriage needs to change with those who made it. Times change, marriage needs to change too. We are not the same 20-somethings that said "I do". We are different now, and so is our marriage. We have changed for the better and for THE LONG RUN. We like that, our children like that, and our grandchildren like that. So do our friends and neighbours. A good marriage is a testimony to faith in each other and in what lasts.
ReplyDeleteRosemary
DeleteThat is such a wonderful comment. It gives me goose bumps. You are a grand example of promise, strength and commitment. Exactly as I feel about marriage. This post is tongue in cheek . I'm trying to be funny but I'm not a very funny person. I know how much children and grandchildren appreciate parents who have spent their whole lives together. Thank you for writing this. You have a beautiful life.
Lust and sex may be the instigator, the flash attraction, but it is love that keeps a couple in for the long run. The secret? Grow up and grow old together.
ReplyDeleteSusan
DeleteThat is the truth. Totally. It's the frosting and sprinkles on the cupcake. When that's gone, what do you have? Just plain cake but we all want our cake and be able to eat it too. Ha Another one of my feeble attempts at trying to be funny. For me, lust didn't have much to do with love...... it was the birth of children and the death of our parents. Those are the things that seem to unite people in love.
A wise woman you are and your happy life shows it. Thanks for the comment.
How do we get back to marriage and family values?
ReplyDeleteNo idea. I'd say loving your partner has a lot to do with it and realising that all the external stimulation is just so much rubbish might help, but we are seeing generations now who have been raised from birth with this kind of rubbish continually "in their faces". With both parents having to work to make ends meet, where else will these kid get their values?
River
DeleteWhen I get serious and really think about it, I don't have a clue. I think for right now, a lot depends on where one lives. I live in a small community that still adheres to some family values. I have a female friend who is a tour director and is constantly traveling. She tells me that we, here, live in a completely different world than from what she sees while traveling. Although I do see how difficult it is for my granddaughter to find a partner with famiy values. She still wants out of life the same things I wanted, believe it or not. She wants marriage and a family. It's not happening because that is NOT what most young men want. As I said, I don't have a clue. What you are saying is sooooo true and it has almost completely destroyed famlies as we knew them.
Hmmm... you've got me thinking- though I'd don't have the answers either. Here's an interesting one for you: my husband and I are both from seriously broken homes, don't have any children, married young, have been married 17 years this coming January and are more in love than ever. Nope, I've never been the average anything- just in case you were wondering!
ReplyDeleteI do have strong feelings about married people needing to be going in the same life direction or else I think it just never works. That's my 2 cents.
Jasmine
DeleteIt's sad. Who knows where this will end? I think it matters a great deal, just "where" one lives. As I said up above to River, a lot of the smaller communities still have the family, neighborly values.
You are fortunate to have found each other and to recognize the happy bliss of committment. I hold you both in high esteem and thank electronics that I can come to know such sincere people as you and your husband. You are beautiful and you have my sincere blessing.
Thanks for your input on this holy day as I sit here remembering it was Kennedy who was responsible for my my being able to live the past 50 years in safety and freedom.
So the 7 year itch just became a 5 year itch. You are right about family values, the family that plays together, stays together.
ReplyDeleteSo how are you feeling now? Throat better?
It appears so, according to Gray. But if you ask Ashly, it's even much less. She finds that guys just don't want want to commit.
DeleteI had the sore throat for about a day but no where near as severe as before. The usual flu symptoms, but milder. You didn't feel anything? That's what I thought..... you are so clean inside, you probably look like you went inside with a brush and got scrubbed. Yay for Terry. I'm getting back there.
I hope you and your sister had a fun day running loose in PA. ummm that might make a great song title. Pennsylvania six five thousand did all right for the past 60 some years. Ha
Love you
I was wondering if the decline in longevity of marriage could be attributed to women working. Seems that years ago the woman stayed home and depended on the husband financially. These days women all earn enough to care for their families. It makes leaving a lot easier if you're mad, impulsive, or not willing to put in the effort to stay.
ReplyDeleteI agree the family intact is very important.
As a side note, my son came home from school last year and asked me who is 'other dad' was... I told him he doesn't have another dad. He said all of his friends have two dads. *sigh*
Rosey,
DeleteIt certainly may add to the 5-year itch in place of the 7-year itch.... that is what Terry cleverly called it. Ha. But I'm more sure that women working has caused a decline of the family unit. Because of that, the ones who really suffer are the kids. And they suffer at any age. My first husband, the father of my children, was a womanizer. Perhaps today he would be called a sex addict as now they have groups (like AA) for sex addicts. He was also a narcessist and all of those labels add up to a person who can never be faithful. I stayed for 25 years and fulfilled what i thought was my obligation to my kids but it still shattered something within them. Children want their parents together, especially in old age. He remarried but still slept around, naturally. But he's dead now.
Did you see that movie of FDR and his romance with his cousin Daisey? It was made in 2012. I saw it just today. I was flipping around on the tube and it was just coming on. I got stuck.... couldn't move. According to the movie, he had 3 women during the same time frame. I thought, "OMG.....this reminds me of my 1st husband.:" My 2nd husband was a wonderful man, by the way.
In my opinion, all little kids having 2 fathers now, is sad. But that's the way it is and I'm out of step. Thank you for the gracious comment.
Oh good golly gosh. Bring back the fifties. Hi honey, I'm home. What's for supper?
ReplyDeleteYours truly, a happily single dude! :)
Gary
Gary
DeleteAs I appear in pearls, full skirt, skinny heels and apron, " I made all your favorite food and have a martini waiting for you. Here's your slippers."
My husband is dead and at first I was lonely but now I too, love being alone. It's a comfortable life. Ha
Have that comfortable weekend.
Your advice sounds pretty good. My parents didn't believe in divorce either. No matter how hard things got, they stayed together until death parted them after 31 years of marriage.
ReplyDeleteMurees
DeleteWhat a wonderful family life you must hae had. Especially in their older life together, it's comforting to make one visit to see your parents (together). Mine were together for 60 plus years too and I'm sure they had their ups and downs.
Thank you for stopping by.
It's about making a life together. Unless our blood family is totally dysfunctional and dangerous to be around, we should stick together because family is the building block, the DNA of society/culture/government. If the family is healthy, then society/culture/government is healthy. Right those areas appears to be having problems which means that families are in trouble.
ReplyDeleteI think you are absolutely right about the seeming need for "constant titillation" and the encroachment of "boredom." We are not teaching children to be content with what they have, we are teaching them that they can only be happy if they have this, that or the other NEW THING. But things never bring true happiness. It's relationship alone that does that. And building/keeping relationships takes time, takes conscious effort. In this day and age of "instant gratification" who want to bother with that?
Bish
ReplyDeleteThat is such a unique and wonderful way to describe marriage and government. I like that thought and I bet it usually rings true. Perhaps there was also hanky panky going on back in the 50's, 60's but for the most part, the kids were happy. Remember "Leave it to Beaver." Most of the kids in Minneapolis were nerdy, just like Beve and Wally. When my oldest son was in high school, the boys even wore sports coats and ties to school and there was no dress code. Sure, they would get into some trouble once in a while, but I never worked and was right there to nip trouble in the bud. I hate to sound like an old fuddy duddy but yeah, I think having a mother right there for the kids was a good thing.
Thanks for you meaningful comment.
Very interesting post! Lots to think about, and I'm with you, I wish people would take marriage more seriously and stay together long, however they make it work :)
ReplyDeleteSarah Allen
(From Sarah, with Joy)
Sarah
ReplyDeleteThank you for dropping by and adding a very nice comment.
Having been married to the same delightful woman for 44 years, and not wanting to go back to the 1950s, or smoke cigarettes, I think I'll pass on your plan. I cannot decide whether this is more appealing or appalling.
ReplyDeleteBlessings and Bear hugs, anyhow!
Rob Bear
DeleteNice to see you up and out of hibernation. Definitely appaling. By the numbers, you're headed for 60. Congratulations on such a nifty number.
I've been married for 40 years and it's still got some romance to it... and a lot of love. I do believe strongly in family dinners though.
ReplyDeleteKay
DeleteI truly believe the longer a couple is married, the more love there is. You have solved too many problems together by that time to let it go. Congrats on the number 40.
what if we turn all a bit hippy and live in big communities...uh I could make money with this idea...gotta go
ReplyDeletePoke
ReplyDeleteSeriously.... that would work. I thin we're coming back to that anywy.
Where are you or where have you been? I miss the finger.