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Monday, August 25, 2014
86 That Person
Have you ever been 86'd? 86, meaning kicked out, told to leave, given
the boot? I was curious as to how that phrase came about so I looked
it up and found many conflicting origins. The one most given was in
the 20's there was a code number of 86, meaning a restaurant or soda
fountain was out of an item. They would yell 86.
I ran into a friend that I hadn't seen in a while and she said, "Do you
remember when we were 86'd from the widow's club? I didn't but
once reminded, I now recall. Sounds a little harsh, kicking grieving
widows out of a club. Actually there were 3 of us who got the boot. Our sin
being we also belonged to the Oasis Club and this club didn't want those
widows. Hahaha.... what a deal! That was 14 years ago and we had all
just recently lost our husbands.
Groucho Marx said, "I wouldn't want to belong to any club that would
have me as a member." He also said, "Wives are people who feel they
don't dance enough. In some quirky way, I can relate to both.
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Do you want your hair to grow? Cut it when the moon is in Leo. Truth.
I'm a truthsayer, meaning would I lie to you? I always want my hair to
grow. When they were giving out hair, I was in the wrong line. I was
in the boob line so I ran over to the hair line, that was closed and by the
time I got back to the boob line, that was closed too. Get the picture?
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OMG It's almost September. It brings on a September song but don't
worry, I won't sing it. (I may hum a little) Next month Terry from
My Journey with Candida, and her adorable husband are coming to
Montana for elk hunting. She's bringing sequins and we're going to
get all gussied up and hit the casinos, floozy style. We have sooooo
many plans and you know there will be a plethora of poop and worm
talk.
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Gotta run. A handi-man is coming to re-design the chicken coop.
What a life my chickens have. Just lay me an egg a day and I'll be
your slave. LOL
I worked in a restaurant in college and we used to 86 baked potatoes all the time. Don't know why they never had enough. If I have been 86'd, I wan't smart enough to know.
ReplyDeleteYour casino trip sound like fun. Hit it big.
Patti
DeleteI suppose a baked potato is a filling, nutritious, inexpensive lunch for college kids. And you can top it with all kinds of good stuff.
Wouldn't it be fun to hit it big????
lmao maybe the casino gods will shine down upon you when you tell them about the poop and worms. I've heard the term before but never used it myself. Can't say I've got 86ed out of anywhere either, I guess that would mean I'd have to go outside lol
ReplyDeletePat
DeleteI couldn't believe I had been actually 86'd either. It will probably scar me for the rest of my life. haha
Yeah, I think you would.
I remember the phrase & ALSO agent 86 from Get Smart!!
ReplyDeleteFishducky
DeleteI never made the connection, in fact I didn't remember his nmber but I think the girl's number was 99. You have a good memory.
Karen
ReplyDeleteA smile is good. Actually my secret dream would be, to be a commedian. Even just a fool and make people laugh. That is because I don't have a voice like yours. Make them laugh, probably next best.
My great grandmother was 86d from her church. Apparently, she and another member really liked to gossip (probably about all of the other church members). Anyway, the pastor found out and warned her that if she didn't knock it off she would get the boot. I guess she thought the threat was an empty one... I mean, no one really expects to be booted out of their church, right??? Well, turns out... not. She kept on gossiping and he came over and told her she couldn't come back.
ReplyDeleteMy granddaddy said, "Well, I guess you're going to have to find another church." Meaning, he was retaining his membership in that church and she was on her own. And that is what he meant.
Since my mom often went to church with them on Sunday morning (and three or four evenings a week) that meant my mom and great-grandmother spent several months looking for a new church home. And they always had to walk to the bus stop and then walk some more to church. Granddaddy took the car. And then they repeated this on the evenings they went to church (while he stayed home with the car).
The fact that my mother and great-grandmother thought that this was "normal" behavior says a lot about my family.
I am really working hard at 86ing the Stinking Thinking I learned from these people.
Robin
DeleteThat is quite a story . Actually it's kinda like a skeleton in the closet but you are letting it out. I also always thought church people were supposed to be accepting, healing and forgiving or is that just a fable?I guess it is. You are so level headed. I suppose in your family that means you are the black sheep. I guess that means the one who is different, huh? I agree a lot of everybody's childhood thinking should be 86'd. Stinking Thinking and anything else.
I suspect that she was offending other church members by not discreetly gossiping. Otherwise, how would the pastor have even known??? And he did give her fair warning that if she didn't quit, he'd boot her, and she didn't quit. So, I guess I can't say that is the part that shocks me most.
DeleteWhat shocks me most is that granddaddy 86d her in favor of retaining his church home. Instead of saying, "Well, I guess you learned something from this, so I expect you to NOT do it a our next church home...." And so on. But he told her he was staying where she was no longer welcome and she had to just move on down the road.
And that is the insanity that runs in my family!!!
Actually, my mom turned out remarkably well considering. She has co-dependency issues (like mine). But we are both working on them. I think my brother actually turned the most mentally healthy. He doesn't struggle like I do with all of this crap. So... go figure.
I think it's mentally healthy to even recognize that one may have come from a disfunctional family...... but then who can't find off-beat people in their family closet??? When I stand on the scales of balance and analyse...... I believe my mother would have behaved as your grandfather. To her way of thinking, it was the building and not the message. Because of this, I washed my hands of dogma and organized religion at a very young age.When I think back about certain people connected to my life, I guess we had crazies galore. I think everyone does but some people just become more involved and sucked into others ways of thinking. Have you ever read the diminutive book, The Four Agreements? I think that's the name but it's been a while since I've picked it up. I'll look it up.....but it was revealing as he talked about people being born into "other's" ideas and that we would have to find our own. Anyway, I marvel at your level-headed way of coping and your successful struggle to be your own person.
DeleteNope, I don't think I've ever been 86-ed. It's absolutely ridiculous... and horribly judgmental... that the widow's club did that to you and the other ladies. (Their loss!) I have been on the other end of having to let people go from their positions within an organization, though, and I HATED it. I think I'd rather be let go than have to let someone else go.
ReplyDeleteWoo HOO! Good luck at the casino, and even more important... have FUN!
Susan
DeleteIt's a lonely job when you're in command. You really can't have friends from work, I bet. My granddaughter and I were just talking about that yesterday. She has her band and does a good job with the business part too and provides jobs for a number of musicians . They are all men and aren't showing her respect. It's a problem. She will probably have to fire one of them to prove she means what she says.
Thanks but this won't happen for a while yet... hunting season which begins in October.
Ohhhh I would like to spend an hour or so with you gals at the casino (hubby prolly wouldn't want kid duty longer than that if slot machines were around). I'm not a big gambler (a few quarters just to say I did it ;) ) but I bet you guys are fun!!
ReplyDeleteI've never been 86'd, but phooey to anyone who would 86 widows.
Who knows? We'll probably have so much fun in the casinos that we'll be 86'd. Then I can say, "I've been 86'd from better places than this." Haha.... Always wanted to say that.
DeleteRosey,
DeleteThat would be a blast if we all got together. All 3 of us would get 86'd from laughing so hard.
Can't wait to get 86'd with you Belva. We will give them all hell.
Deletehahaha, Terry's ready to roll!! If you get so rowdy that you get 86'd, that'd be a heck of a blog post. NOT that I'm advising such action, hahahahaha
DeleteWe'll have such scandallous blogging material that we'll most likely also get 86'd from blogging forever. You're missing out on a lot of laughter if you don't join us, Rosey. But, we can always have a 3-way skype party. Since I've been doing some lessons on skype, I think it's a neat way to have a party.
DeleteAnother joyously fun post, Manzanita!
ReplyDeleteHope you have fun at the casino, you old floozy! (joke) :)
Wendy
DeleteI wear the name like a badge of honor. Not enough floozies in this world.
I may have been 86-ed before
ReplyDeleteHoly Ghost
DeleteCongratulations. Now you can join "our club," the one of having been 86'd.
Hi Manzanita - I've never heard of the 86'd .. but it appears to have been common ... though now look forward to spending time with your friends and whipping it up around town .. cheers Hilary
ReplyDeleteIt appeared to have started during the twenties and maybe was only popular in the US, but I still hear it used today...... mostly by older people so the idea must be vanishing.
DeleteHow do I know when the moon is in Leo? Is it a different time from the northern hemisphere? Is it only in Leo for a certain time each year? Or more than once? I would love my hair to grow! Fingernails too, got any tips for those? Mine have been thin and weak all my life.
ReplyDeleteRiver
DeleteI'll comment on your blog as I never now if you get back here.
never knew both meanings of the number
ReplyDeleteAdam
DeleteI doubt if many young people know what it means. It's a dying number. Haha
If I laid an egg, I'd be a millionaire.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry. I'd give you credit for the idea.
Al
DeleteThat is generous......Always give credit where credit is due. And I'd love to watch you spend your money on boats and jets.
haha
I'd love to pass an egg without breaking the shell.
DeleteMy goodness. Now I know. The young people of modern-day America are chickens! The egg heads simply 86 independence.
ReplyDeleteEgg Heads.... there's a term I haven't heard in a while. Ha
DeleteYeah, I'd be a slave to a chicken who gives me an egg everyday, too. My girlfriend and I were 86'd from the same bar 3 times. On the same night. We were underage, but we had a good reason for going back in. We had worked on a political campaign in town and that was where the party-to-wait-for-the-results was on election day. The bartender finally told us that he could lose his license if the cops found us there. He should've done that the first time and we would've never returned. LOL
ReplyDeleteSusie
DeleteYou made me laugh in the first half but then it wasn't so funny because you were doing something very American and were not even allowed to see the results of your work.
Yeah, some people don't have the gift of being able to look in another's situation. Too bad.
When I worked in restaurants in college, we would use the term "86" when we were out of something. "86 on the ice cream" - that one was always a sad one to hear...
ReplyDeleteKeith
ReplyDeleteI guess that term is still in use in restaurants. Out of ice cream..... poor little kids who were promised ice cream if they all all the veggies on their plate and then no ice cream. What a blow.
I've never heard that expression, Manzanita... interesting. I learned something here... But my mind is in idle mode after a crazy day at work, so I think I'd better go and get some exercise soon!
ReplyDeleteYour quote about the chickens made me smile. And I do need a haircut but I don't know what to do with it.
Julia
DeleteI guess daily work can be a drag and drain one's energy. I bet you put on your tap shoes after a stressful day ..... tap dance and 86 the crazy work day. Haha
Hair can become a problem.
Dear Manzanita, I don't recall every being 86ed but that doesn't mean I haven't been. I just don't remember! As to dressing up to go gambling, you've hit on something I like to do a couple of years--hit the casinos with my $40. ($20 for a meal and $20 to spend at the slots!) Last time I brought home $15 of the slot $20 so I felt lucky!!!!! Peace.
ReplyDeleteDee
DeleteDo you ever go to Mystic Lake, the casino outside of Minneapolis? Unfortunately, it was on my end of town and I used to pay it frequent visits. But you could win big bucks there, too. Now I live within walking distance of at least 20 casinos and I never gamble anymore. This town is really small and I could probably walk to any casino in the whole area, not only "walk to 20." lol
Hi Manzanita from Montana, It's so nice to meet you. Montana has to be the most wonderful place in our country... We were in Montana only briefly in 2012 --after leaving Yellowstone. Fantastic area!!!
ReplyDeleteI live in gorgeous Tennessee --another beautiful place with the Smoky Mountains nearby. Hubby and I are retired but stay extremely busy with all of the things we love to do: travel, hike, search for waterfalls wherever we can, garden (flowers--including ROSES), and I love Genealogy and my Backyard Birds... Life is good. What else can I say?????
I don't think I have ever heard the term being 86th.... Guess I'm just too darn old... ha.. I learn so much through blogging... Hope you will come back to my blog and I'll return to yours.
Again, it was GREAT to meet you. Our Daylilies bloom in the summer and if we have re-bloomers, they will bloom again in the fall.... We try to have something blooming at least 3 seasons. The only thing blooming here in Winter is our Winter Pansies....
Hugs,
Betsy
Betsy
DeleteI've driven through Tennessee several times and I always thought what a beautiful place to live.. It must be exciting to travel and search for waterfalls.I've never been around waterfalls much but I hear the neg. ions are extremely energizing.. Roses have become a mystery to me lately. I used to be able to grow them but lately they don't seem to like me. Ha.
Thank you for visiting and leaving the very nice comment.
Hi Manzanita. How are you doing? I've never heard the term 86'd but I have heard those Groucho quotes. Love the picture you conjure up re the hair and boob queues :-)
ReplyDeleteRos
DeleteI used to love Groucho but I haven't seen any of his old films in a long time. As time changes, perhaps I wouldn't think he's so funny. Who knows.
Nice to see you again.